We have been digging deep and looking at the impact that women's thoughts about food has on the rest of their lives. A topic we also mentioned in last week's blog post.
This week we took it a step further and began looking at how the way we feel about ourselves dictates the way we eat.
For example, let's consider that you're a stress eater. Every time you're stressed out, you reach for a bag of something you can munch on, hungry or not.
So what does this tell us about you?
You're always in go-go-go mode and you often neglect your own needs in order to be productive. You probably have a long to-do list that never gets complete and feel guilty about doing anything else so you never allow yourself time to rest.
Next thing you know, it's too late and you're in a serious need of happy brain chemicals to replenish your out of balance lifestyle - and food is your go to.
You put other people before you and most of the time you think others and what they need are more important than you.
Okay, so you're probably wondering, what does that have to do with my love life?
Well we're about to tell you!
Let's think about our example...
If you're the woman who has a habit of stress eating and who usually puts her needs after others, you may find yourself in one of two situations:
1. You're single and don't feel like you have enough time for dates. You might desperately want a relationship, but you feel like you should be working instead of doing that. You never feel like you're body is in the shape it could be and imagine if you were just a little thinner you might actually attract that guy you like.
2. If you're in a relationship, you find yourself always giving, giving, giving and it's exhausting! You have a hard time setting boundaries making self-care and "you" time near impossible. You love your relationship, but it takes a lot out of you and can be stressful.
So now we know not everyone fits into that box, so let's think about another example.
Let's consider you're a chronic dieter, i.e. every month or every special event you're going on a new diet or cleanse to look and feel better.
This also means that before you go on your diet you often overindulge in the foods you're about to give up! After the special event is over or after the time you set for your diet is over, you binge on whatever it is you gave up. Somehow you find yourself unable to stop.
So what does this mean about you?
You're afraid to gain weight or you feel like you're always overweight. You can't understand why the weight won't stay off and every time it happens you're frustrated.
You might also weigh yourself everyday and if you're not at the exact weight you want, your day is pretty much ruined. You never feel good enough.
So what does this say about your love life?
1. If you're single, you probably always feel like you're not skinny enough to find the man of your dreams. You never feel comfortable in your skin on a date and you feel insecure of other women a lot. You also always seem to date guys who won't commit to you.
2. If you're in a relationship, you feel like you can only be intimate with your significant other at certain times. You might be afraid that you're significant other might leave you. And you often snap at your significant other when you're having a day when the scale didn't meet your expectations.
So we know that every situation is different and you may not fit into either of the above categories, but can you see how the way we think about ourselves is related to the way we eat and can dictate how we are in relationships?
We have designed our online course to address just that! To heal your relationship with food, with yourself, and as a result bring an abundance of love into your life.
Take a look this week at where your eating habits might be making your life more difficult than you think! Be mindful of where you're not having your own needs met in your life. Take care of yourself this week. Rest, enjoy your food, and know that the way you are right now, in this very moment, is beautiful.
We would love to hear what you think about this article? Can you relate? Do you find it interesting? We can't wait to connect!
Hannah and Marisa
P.S. Do you have someone in your life who you think would enjoy this article? Be a beautiful friend and pass it along so every woman can have an abundance of love in their lives. xo