Women these days have so many expectations for themselves! We expect ourselves to work full time, cook, clean, take care of our children, be social, take care of our family and friends’ needs, be perfect, never be weak and never show a troubled emotion. We live in a time now where we feel like we have to be superwoman! The reality is that being everything to everyone is totally impossible unless you’re looking to have an emotional break down, which none of us want to experience.
Since we “don’t have time” to take care of ourselves, deal with our emotions, or have fun on the daily, we turn to food. Food is always there, it never talks back, it can be naughty and exciting, it comforts us and it rewards us. Food becomes our most reliable friend through the curve balls, the joyful celebrations and everything inbetween.
Next thing you know your emotions or your stress level are dictating your food choices. The type of eating that ensues can be anywhere from nibbling to a complete and total binge. Leaving us feeling overly full, guilty, or anxious.
The first step is identifying which steps have you suffering from superwoman-itis :
You’re constantly saying everything is fine, when it’s not.
You’re more comfortable taking care of others than being taken care of.
You’re too busy taking care of others to take care of yourself.
You have this idea that certain emotions are bad or weak so it’s only okay to express certain emotions.
You feel like everything has to be perfect.
Okay now that you know what symptoms of superwoman-itis you have it’s time to get connected to exactly what things will make you feel better! And surprise it might not be diet and exercise! We’re talking about the few things you can do to take care of yourself that would make THE DIFFERENCE in how you feel.
So here’s how you figure it out :
Write a paragraph about the best time in your life. It could be a day, a month, a year, anything. THink about what you were doing, who you were with, the emotions you were feeling, etc.
Then summarize in 4-5 words the elements that were present in your life at that time. What is it fun, creativity, exercise, family, friends cooking, etc?
Now write a paragraph about the worst time in your life. Again, it could be a day, a month, a year or years. Just like you did for the best time, think about what was happening, what you were doing, who you were with, the feelings or emotions you had.
Then summarized in 4-5 words the elements that were present during that time. Were you feeling unsupported, were you not exercising, or sleeping, etc.?
Now compare the elements step 2 to the elements in step 4. Which elements were present in step 2 and missing in step 4?
Make a list of the things that you could do that would allow you to build those things back into your life.
Those are the elements that you must have in your life to keep you in balance and feeling amazing. Begin to think about how you can build those elements back into your life. Even if it’s just one time per week. Focus on slowly bringing in those specific elements and scheduling activities to bring it back into your life!
Those few elements are the exact things you need to feel totally and completely empowered in your life and you don’t have to over schedule yourself with everything you think you “should” do to take care of yourself! Get those things and life will begin to shift immediately!
We believe in you, beautiful
Hannah & Marisa
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