Last week during our Elevate Our Inner Light session we had an amazing conversation about what it takes to REALLY be ourselves so I thought I'd give you some of the juicy tidbits we covered.
What do I mean by being yourself? I like to use the word authenticity.
The definition of authenticity is: true to one's own personality, spirit, or character is sincere and authentic with no pretensions
Here's what it looks like:
- Doing things because you want to and not to make others happy.
- Communicating what you need from other people even if it might make them unhappy.
- Speaking up when you need to even if you're afraid to feel judged, rejected or disliked.
- Being yourself even around new people (or that new guy you really like)
Okay, are you having a heart attack yet?
I know, some of these things seem absolutely terrifying to do.
It's taken years of practice and some pretty terrible experiences for me to really see the value of being authentic.
So why is it so important??
Well, when we aren't being authentic it is likely that you allow others to influence your major decisions in life. (That is not so good for happiness).
You don’t trust yourself to make decisions because you’re always looking outside yourself for validation. Everyone always knows better than you. Think anxiety and overwhelm.
When we aren't being authentic or even okay with being ourselves it's challenging to communicate with others or share your feelings and that turns in frustration of not being heard, anger, and resentment. Which turns into anxiety, guilt, shame, anger, self-loathing.
Okay, so instead of giving you all of the amazing details from our call, I'll give you the top 5 ways to practice being authentic:
- Be self aware – aware of your feelings, your emotions and your thoughts.
- Practice being imperfect - Perfection is ingenuous.
- Forgive and love yourself - practice self-compassion, then it's easier to say things because you're not afraid to
- Be willing to make a change and take responsibility for your mistakes - if it's okay to make mistakes, it's okay to take responsibility for them, and it becomes okay to be totally authentic.
- Accept your life experiences and feel the emotions that arise - it's okay to have good and bad experiences in your life. It's actually human!
I encourage you to start practicing by taking baby steps towards being your authentic self, even if it means asking the waiter to take back your incorrect order. ;)
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