I know you'll be able to relate to this week's blog! I mean, who hasn't gone out to dinner with friends and compared what you want to order to everyone else! It's not uncommon to want to "fit in" at the dinner table! The truth is that isn't always the best choice for us.
Here's how it can look:
- Everyone at the table is on a diet... so they're all ordering "healthy" choices (i.e. salads) and that's not really what you want, but you feel pressured to do the same.
- You're so concerned about your weight and you body that you can't possibly think of ordering anything but a salad because people might think you're more fat or say things like "no wonder she's that way".
- Everyone at the table is eating food you would never eat or want to go to a fast food place you'd never touch, but you don't want to be "that person".
- Your friends always eat foods that don't make you feel well and they're always making comments about how skinny you are and how you should eat, so you feel like you can't say no.
- Someone offers you food and you feel like it's rude to say no.
- Or you're so overwhelmed with so many choices that you never allow yourself to eat you want everything!
The list of feelings and emotions that come up when eating in social situations definitely goes on, but I want to give you a few tips and mindset tricks that will help you stick to what you want and enjoy your food!
1. If you eat something you don't really want you're more likely to eat more later so keep this in mind. So choose what you desire and eat it mindfully.
2. Consider when you are offered a food that you're absolutely repulsed by, for me that's coconut, you never have a problem saying no. So how is it any different than saying no to a food that doesn't make you feel well? If it makes you feel more comfortable, tell people you don't like the taste, you're not in the mood for it or you don't feel well after you eat it.
3. If someone offers you something you don't want to eat at a family gathering you can always tell them you're not hungry at the moment and you'll serve yourself when you get hungry.
4. If you're at a party and you are hungry, choose a small amount of the things your want and only go back for things that you really enjoyed.
5. Don't feel guilty. Guilt only perpetuates the cycle of overeating and making choices that don't feel great to your body.
6. Lastly, It's hesitation that makes people question you. So be confident and firm about what you desire and people will be less likely to say something. You've got this!
Hope you have a beautiful week!