Jumping on again to talk about a topic near and dear to my heart. I'll be elaborating more tonight on Facebook! The schedule is a little different so see below!
A couple of weeks ago I went to see the movie Embrace, which I highly recommend if you haven't seen it!
The movie talks all about body image and the struggles that women of every shape and size struggle with living during this day and age.
We're constantly bombarded with "Nutritional Information" on social media, in the news, on TV, you name it and it's around reminding you that you need to eat a certain way to feel good, be skinny and happy.
We're also surrounded by messages from the media, magazines, beauty companies, the fashion industry that we need to look a certain way in order to be "beautiful" or be "chic".
Now, fashion isn't bad, makeup isn't bad, beauty products, and eating nourishing foods aren't bad.
What's not good is our relationship to each of these things. Why we use them? Why we seek them out?
So my question to you begins with, do you use fashion, makeup, eating healthy as a self-expression, because it feels good to you, because you enjoy it?
Or is it something that you feel like you HAVE to do, or SHOULD do, in order to get married, be happy, feel confident on the outside? Are you using it to try and cover up who you really are?
Just a thought to ask yourself. Are you secretly body shaming yourself without even knowing it?
Truthfully, you can do all the same things, but coming from a place of empowerment instead of fixing. It begins by shifting your thoughts and the things you say to yourself.
Here are a few examples, of simple switches:
Thank God this dress makes me look skinny.
I love how beautiful I look in this dress.
Ugh, if it wasn't for concealer, I don't know what I would do.
I love how this concealer brightens my skin tone.
I'm eating a salad today because I feel so fat and bloated
A salad sounds so refreshing to me and is exactly what my body wants.
These simple switches begin to make a world of difference!!! Now here's how it relates to our eating habits. When we are overly focused on the way our body looks or doesn't look, or the number on the scale, or the way those old jeans fit you, you end up sabotaging yourself. You can go one of two ways, the first is to say to yourself "oh well I'm fat I may as well just keep eating" or you go into restriction "I better eat perfectly for the next two weeks" and then that always leads to a binge afterwards.
The last thing to say about this topic today, is if you body shame other people. Or if you look at other people with disgust or make assumptions about who they are as people when it comes to the way they look, their weight, or their body... then you're a terrible person.
Okay, just kidding, but it's a good idea to step back, take a long hard look at yourself, and decide if that's a healthy or happy way to live your life. Valuing people based on the way they look and judging people based on their weight does not come from love. It comes from fear. And likely you live in fear a lot of your life and it's stealing your joy.
Today, take a look at where you can come from a place of love with yourself and with others.