I've been doing a lot of reading lately about feeling better and elevating our mood. Obviously this makes a huge difference when it comes to emotional eating, binge eating, and sugar cravings. The worse we feel the harder it is to stop any of those things. So emotions/feelings are one of my biggest areas of focus.
What I learned yesterday, is that our body's actually become addicted to or desensitized to emotions that we experience a lot over time. So if you feel guilty about food likely you feel guilty about everything else in life.
If you feel shameful about your body it's likely you also feel shameful about your actions or in actions often.
Or if you feel anxious or panicked often then your body feels in some ways "normal" or "comfortable" in an anxious state (even if being anxious doesn't feel comfortable about all).
I just started a book recommended by a good friend of mine by Joe Dispenza, called Breaking the Habit of Being You. It's a fascinating book about the connection between our mind and body. He describes the process of how we get addicted to feeling a particular way.
I want to share it with you so that you can have some self-compassion about how challenging it is to break free from these cycles of being negative a lot of the time.
Then I'll share with you a few tips to get you started on shifting it (it's a process - that's why there are whole programs created around this - it's not always easy to do on your own).
Okay, when we have a particular thought like "I'm fat" your body producesneurotransmitters that flood your brain and cause neurons to fire producing images of evidence that you're fat, those then signal the production ofneuropeptides in your body that signal ligands (places where hormones are produced) to produce the hormones associated with the particular emotion that are associated with that thought. Likely sadness, disappointment, guilt, etc. Your body feels the emotions and your brain wants to match the feelings you're experiencing in your body so it now produces all kinds of memories and other images that have in the past produced the same feelings. Like you're a disappointment remember when you failed that class, you shouldn't have had that soda yesterday, etc.
Terrible cycle, right!?!
Well it gets a tiny bit worse... When we constantly flood ourselves with these thoughts and feelings over the years our cells get used to swimming in "guilt" or your emotion of choice. So much so they have to reduce the receptors for accepting these chemicals into their cells ....Which means you now need more "guilt" chemicals in your body to feel normal! Not feeling guilty now starves your cells of what they are used to sitting in!
Okay, the good news is!!! This is totally reparable. You can absolutely retrain your body and brain to think differently and feel differently.
So where do we begin??? We have to learn to flood our body with good feelings... to recognize when we're feeling guilty or anxious or shameful and realize it's just a chemical reaction!
1. Practice gratitude. Gratitude produces a lot of positive feelings in your body.
2. Think about things you want in your life and feel the feelings of what it will be like when you have those things.
3. When you feel a negative a emotion, it's okay, just notice where it's coming from, let it be your signal to notice where your thoughts are and what you're telling yourself. . . then say something else. . . For example, if you feel sad and you notice you keep saying, I'm a failure, think of something empowering to say. If you need to keep repeating it over and over again until you can't concentrate on the negative thought, do it!
Hope you have a wonderful weekend! Next week I'll be hopping on with some holiday gift ideas for you! So you can give the gift of health this year! <3 <3