We're halfway through January and I know the New Year motivation is starting to wear off or maybe it already has... which is why I wanted to give you a few tips to keep your motivation strong and keep up with what you want to accomplish this year. Today's episode of Weekly Wisdom is about why it can be challenging to stick to a routine and how you can reshape your goals now to keep motivated! (See below the video if you'd rather read today's episode!)
I know you’ve all made New Year’s resolutions or goals and you’re super motivated and excited right now which is awesome!! However, I also know the New Year motivation can wear off super quickly and today I want to tell you why and how you can reshape your goals so you’re successful in keeping them up for the whole year and making them part of your lifestyle.
Let me share with you two reasons why you can’t stick to a routine:
The habit or routine you want to take on is unrealistic.
For example, if you set the goal to meditate every day of the week and currently you’re not meditating at all; it’s likely you won’t stick to it, not because you’re unmotivated, but because life gets in the way. You haven’t really built your schedule around being able to fit this in. It feels hard, you miss a day and then you feel like you’re failing. Then you judge yourself for not having motivation and not being able to stick with it and eventually you give up. Something realistic would be to set a goal to meditate 3 days per week and to put into your calendar and if you don’t make it one day, move to another day, but still making sure you’re getting in your 3 days. When you can consistently do 3 days a week increase to 4 days then to 5, etc. The same applies to the amount of time you meditate. Start with 5 minutes and slow work your way up. As you build the habit it becomes easier to stick with and you feel great because you’re succeeding at making it happen and you don’t get that urge to give up. What’s really important to remember is that it’s not about being perfect, perfectionism is setting you up to fail over and over and over again. No one’s life is perfect even the people who seem to find time to meditate every day have an off day. If you can stop judging yourself, you’re more likely to consistently keep up with your routine and you’ll achieve your goal a lot faster!
The second reason is that your goals something you think you “should do” and you’re too attached to the end result.
A lot of times we make our New Year’s resolutions and we come from a place of needing to fix something about ourselves. We need to be more peaceful, we need to eat better or exercise more because we’re gaining weight. We heard that Pilates works really well, so we should do that. And instead of choosing activities that you enjoy you focus on doing the things other people say you “should do” or things you know you “should do”. When we come from a place of fixing, we don’t ever stay motivated for long. We’re constantly waiting to reach our end result and if we don’t get there fast enough, we give up or feel like it's not working! But the truth is you’re not allowing yourself or giving yourself the chance to see or experience the benefits.
So what do you do? You come from a place of fun and enjoyment. You choose a habit or goal that brings happiness to your life. For example, if you really want to exercise and exercise doesn’t seem fun, think about what you can do to make it more fun. I don’t go exercise to look good, I go because it makes me feel good. Sometimes, I go because I have a new play list to listen to, or because I have a book I want to read on the elliptical, to get together with friends or to be outside. Think about what would be fun for you! Choose those activities rather than forcing yourself to do something because you think you should. In the process, think about what the benefits are, think about what you’re getting out of each time you do it. Are you proud of yourself? Do you feel better? What is your mood like? How are your energy levels on the days you go? This process provides you with a new experience that can actually motivate you to keep going instead of feeling like you’re constantly failing to reach your end result!
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