Freedom is found in the grey. It's not in the black or white, the all or nothing - it's about flexibility. Having your french fries with a huge plate of veggies. Having a glass of wine tonight and an even bigger green juice tomorrow. It's not about compensating, but IT IS ABOUT LIVING... living in the grey, the place where freedom and happiness can co-exist within a healthy lifestyle. So pick your shade!
On that note, we want to share with you a concept about the "black and white" ways we approach food from one of our favorite books Women Food and God by Geneen Roth. In the book, Roth categorizes two types of compulsive eaters. Restrictors and Permitters. A way to characterize our eating habits to bring awareness to our actions and shift the behavior.
- Are always counting calories/carbs or vegetables all the time
- Are constantly worrying about whether a food is "healthy or not
- Have food anxiety
- Have cycles of being really good then bingeing,
- Are rarely satisfied with their meal
- Are afraid to lose control of their eating habits or their lives.
Why? Restriction or deprivation is a form of control, which feels safe, not out of control.
What to do: Realize that you aren't a child any longer, that eating a cupcake doesn't have to send you into a tailspin of out of control behavior and allowing yourself to eat foods you enjoy every once in a while will actually prevent out of control binge eating. This can be done by learning satisfaction!
- Hate rules
- Use food to numb their emotions
- Are in denial about their eating habits
- Are rebellious eaters and eat especially if you tell them not to
- Try to eat something before it runs out
Why? Permitters feel like they can't control things so they may as well join the chaos.
What to do: Bring awareness to your eating habits. Stop judging yourself when you desire to eat "naughty foods" and instead learn what your hunger and fullness signals are. Simply asking yourself if you're hungry and only eating if you're hungry can transform that habit.
In both cases awareness is key. As Roth expresses, "awareness and compulsion cannot coexist". Pay attention to where you are, what you're doing and stop trying to be anywhere else.
The truth is that we are all permitters and restrictors. For example, restrictors become permitters when they binge eat after long periods of restriction and permittors become restrictors when they try to stick to a diet, even if it's a short period of time. So it is not an excuse to eat a certain way, rather a way to bring awareness to your eating habits and recognize how you're trying to use food.
Bringing awareness is the exact reason we have designed our Divine Dinner Series. To teach you how to bring awareness to your eating habits in a fun, safe and connected environment.
We hope you can join us this month or for future dinner parties. It will be an unforgettable and transformative experience you won't want to miss. Not to mention delicious!
We will leave you with this quote for the week:
"Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the new story you are willing to create." - Oprah Winfrey