Have you been trying to lose the last 7 lbs and no matter what you try you can’t get it off?
Maybe you’ve been so stressed about life you’ve suddenly realized you’re 30 lbs heavier than you were last year?
Maybe it’s not your weight, but it’s the definition of your abs or your arms.
We’ve all experienced a time when we don’t feel or look as good as we know we could or should.
Believe it or not, holding in your emotions, not expressing yourself, or ignoring your needs can be the very cause of those last 7 lbs or that extra 30.
We often find that the women who have the greatest challenges with their weight are often the sweetest, most giving and generous women on the planet.
It doesn’t seem fair. You might be the type who would do anything for anyone and somehow you can’t reach a weight that you’re happy with. So why is that?
You rarely put yourself first and when you do, you feel horribly guilty about it. You stuff down your emotions to be nice to others instead of saying what you really mean or what you really need. You feel like you don’t want to hurt other people, so you’d rather just give up what you need to make others happy.
You inconvenience yourself to take care of others and you’re always making yourself responsible for other people’s unhappiness.
Now it’s an absolutely wonderful thing to take care of and contribute to others. In fact it’s extremely important for the world, but it doesn’t have to come at the expense of you, your happiness or your health and well-being.
Let’s consider that for every emotion you don’t express, every confrontation you avoid, and every little time you step over something you need - the stress, emotion, or thought actually sticks with you and becomes an added pound or added inch on your waste.
Now this may, at first, seem far-fetched to draw a comparison of the two. Stay tuned and I assure you it will make sense.
Every time you do one of those things, you’re adding a little stress or worry to your body, thus increasing the level of cortisol (a stress hormone), which not only increases your appetite - it has you crave carbohydrates, causes insulin resistance, and has you hold onto extra weight, especially in the midsection!
If that’s not a reason to express yourself and release your emotions, we don’t know what is!
So now what to do about it:
- Write a letter. If you have a hard time expressing yourself or something is bothering you emotionally, write a letter. You can write it to yourself or you can direct it to the person you’re upset with. This letter is just for you to see. Write everything that comes to mind, all of your thoughts, feelings, emotions and body sensations. Then re-read it and cross out anything that isn’t exactly what you feel or want to say and add anything that comes to mind. Repeat that a few times, even a day later. If it’s directed towards another person then pick a few sentences in the entire letter that really express your feelings and share it with that person.
- Forgive others. Learn to let go of things that happened in the past. Step number one, writing a letter, is perfect for that. Holding onto resentments can bother you and cause stress even when you’re not focused on it.
- Set boundaries. Make sure that you set boundaries with friends and family. It’s okay to give yourself permission to say no. You deserve to say no and do things that make you happy. People may not always be happy, but it’s okay. You can never please everyone.
- Let people give to you. Take a look and see how often you turn people down when they want to help you or contribute to you. Open up and accept their help. It doesn’t make you weak or needy. In fact it’s a gift to them. People get to feel happy when they contribute to you.
- Nourish yourself. Take care of your needs. When we feel stressed, tired or upset, it’s usually because we aren’t taking care of our needs. We haven’t slept well, we aren’t exercising, we aren’t eating foods that give us energy, or we aren’t taking time to relax. Know that you deserve to relax and replenish yourself. Give yourself permission to do things that make you authentically happy.
- Speak up. It’s okay to be unhappy with someone or a situation, it’s okay to feel sad, and to express your emotions and it’s okay to share what you’re feeling and what is important to you.
It’s time to set yourself free and keep your emotions from weighing you down! Give yourself permission to take care of yourself and be happy!
Hannah & Marisa
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