I’m sure you see or hear about these powerful women who have it all: career, relationship, family, and friends. You’re always wondering how they get it all done. How can they possibly be running the business of their dreams, still attending every week’s social events and have the love of their life? Well, it comes down to a couple things:
They believe they can have it all. (aka self-love)
They know how to stay organized.
You might be thinking, ugh, how do I get those two things?!?! Or I’ve tried and I can’t get there. You have to remember, no one is perfect. Even the most successful, beautiful, and amazing women in the world have their off days. We all have those days when things just don’t happen as planned. And you know what? Those successful, inspiring women haven’t always had it all together. There was a time when they were developing themselves too and had growing pains just like you have when you try to take on something new.
Since Hannah and I are so committed that you live the life of your dreams, we want to share the steps to get you there:
Let’s start with self-love and believing in yourself. If you don’t have this, it won’t make a difference how many structures,systems or tips you set in place. So here are some things you have to remember:
You matter - The first step to making things happen is recognizing that you are the key to everything in your life. This means what you want is important, I’m talking . . . taking time with friends, exercising, relaxing, getting a mani-pedi, sleeping, getting your hair done. If those things are important to you (and they should be) or they make you feel beautiful, then do them! Your life will be a disaster and nothing will work out quite the way it should if you’re not taking time for yourself.
You have something to contribute - Without you, things aren’t going to happen and they definitely won’t move the way you want them to. You can’t have a relationship without you, you can’t have a career without you, you can’t have a group of friends without you. Most importantly, you have to understand that there is an impact when you are missing, whether you think so or not. When you’re late or you aren’t around, there is a huge impact. People can think you don’t care, you’re not committed, you don’t have what it takes, or you’re unreliable.
Be on time, do what you say you’re going to do, and do it with everything you’ve got - With any business, relationship, and even with your friends this is huge! If you want to be the best business partner, the best friend, the best girlfriend, the best anything, #3 is key. Remember you might not always be on time or accomplish everything you say you’re going to because life happens, but you can try your best. And if you can’t, just let people know. Let your boss know you won’t have the report done, let your boyfriend know you’re still getting ready and you’re going to be late, let your friends know you can’t make it and most importantly take responsibility that they might not be happy with you.
Okay now that you have those things to work on, here are some strategies to help you fulfill 1, 2, and 3.
Use your calendar like your life depends on it - I know it can feel like it’s a burden to use your calendar. You might feel like you have no control over your schedule or you can’t be a free spirit (I have experienced all of those things, it totally happens). But having an organized calendar and sticking to it actually brings you more freedom, peace of mind, and reduces your stress levels 10-fold. Don’t believe me?? Try this exercise: write down everything you need to do in the next week and schedule a time in your calendar to do each thing on your list. I guarantee you’ll create mental clarity! Okay so this is important: Don’t agree to anything until you look at your calendar. If you do, you’re setting yourself up for overbooking, stress, and anxiety.
Write EVERYTHING down - Do not rely on your brain to remember what you have to do. It won’t work. There was definitely a time in my life where I could remember everything. . . my dentist appointment three weeks ahead, my Thursday dinner with my girlfriend, what I had to do at work the next day, and then life happened. . . I started a non-profit, I started Beautiful Body with Hannah, I was coaching a leadership program, all while having a full-time job and trying to still have a social life. With all that going on I couldn’t remember what is going to happen in the next hour! Which brings me to my next point:
Set alarm clocks - I get distracted in less than 5 minutes between the time my calendar says I have a conference call and the actual call. I set reminders 20 minutes before, 5 minutes before and I set an alarm clock for 1 minute before. (Crazy I know, but I will forget, between phone calls, emails, and whatever I’m working on). And no I don’t have ADD, I have so many responsibilities I don’t want to lose a spare minute.
Okay love, let’s get started with those! It’s all a work in progress. Don’t be hard on yourself if you miss things. Use it as an opportunity to look where you aren’t considering impact, you’re pretending you don’t matter or you didn’t set up the right structure. The next step will be organizing your calendar and setting up a structure for sticking with your schedule. I’ll get into more of that in a couple weeks!