We all go through times when we feel amazing, when we’re on top of the world, and everything seems to be going right. And then, suddenly, something happens, and our world starts spiraling downward. Something doesn’t go right or as we expected and if you’re anything like me. . . . you start to blame yourself.
I could have done better, I just don’t have what it takes, I’m not good enough to handle all of this. I should have done this, I should have done that, I’m not this, I’m not that . . . . and the list of self-deprecating conversations we have with ourselves goes on and on. For me, it’s mostly in the form of “I’m not (fill in the blank) enough” . . Smart, pretty, brave, confident. . . you get the picture.
All this negative self-talk stops us from what we’re really committed to. It stops us from having the relationship of our dreams, from having the passionate career we’ve always wanted, from taking care ourselves, and from being truly happy.
In order to get all of those things you want in life you have to start realizing that you deserve it and the only way it’s going to happen is when you start believing it! Of course this is easier said than done. Sometimes it’s easy to escape the negative emotional spiral and other times it’s not. This is why we need little habits, tips + tricks to pull us back into loving ourselves. Eventually we truly believe in ourselves whether things are going our way or not.
Here’s one little exercise my coach (yes, I have a coach too), encouraged me to try and it is something that doesn’t require more than a piece of paper and a pen. Ok so here’s what you do:
Write down 25 things you love about yourself.
Yep that’s it! And keep it somewhere you will see it all the time!
Not too long ago, I was asked to write down this list because I was totally overwhelmed. I was struggling to keep up with all of the things that I had going on in my life and I felt like I was failing at everything. And you know what? I could only get to 8 things I loved about myself, not even half-way.
Since I had fallen into a serious road-block, I reached out to my friends to tell me what they loved about me. It was so amazing. What came back to me was more than I could have ever expected. I ended up using some of the things they mentioned to complete my list and it opened my eyes to a ton of other things that I loved about myself.
Every month, I’m going to take this on. To re-presence what I love about myself. Here is my most recent list:
I care about people
I am hardworking
I love to inspire people
I have good social graces
I am good at making people feel comfortable and not judged.
I love my smile
I love my hair
I am reliable
I am generous
I make people feel important
I am ambitious
I love my laugh
I’m an intellectual (to be completely honest, a total nerd)
I am adventurous
I am independent
I am trustworthy
I am devoted
I am a problem solver
I have a good sense of humor
I am a good listener
I am humble
I am fun
I am always willing to help others
I am driven
I am brave